Shower sex seems like the ultimate steamy fantasy — literally. Wet skin, warm water, naked bodies gliding together… it should be an easy yes. But if you’ve ever actually tried it, you know it doesn’t always go as smoothly as the movies make it seem.
So what’s the deal? Is shower sex a hot and horny must-try or an overrated slippery slope?
We’re here to break it down, what to expect, how to make it work, and what to know before you get too sudsy.
Why does everyone hype up shower sex?
Let’s be honest, there’s something sexy about getting naked and intimate under running water. Shower sex removes the “prep” phase, you’re already undressed, already close, and already touching. It can feel spontaneous, intimate, and a little taboo.
Water can heighten sensitivity, steam can add to the mood, and it’s low-effort cleanup afterwards (win-win). Plus, there’s a sense of forbidden fun, especially if you’re trying to be quiet, quick, or sneaky.
But the reality? It's not always that sexy
Water isn’t lube. We repeat: water is not lube. In fact, it washes natural lubrication away. If you’re someone with a vulva, this can make things feel dry, tight, and straight-up uncomfortable. And for everyone else, friction can still be an issue without the right setup.
Then there’s the logistics. Slippery tiles, cramped corners, height differences, and one of you always being cold while the other hogs the hot water, not exactly a recipe for pleasure.
But don’t worry, there is a way to make it hot.
How to have good shower sex (yes, it’s possible)
Here are some tips to make your steamy session actually feel as good as it looks in your head:
1. Skip penetration (or save it for later)
Focus on mutual masturbation, oral, nipple play, or rubbing. It’s still shower sex if you’re getting each other off. You don’t need penetration to make it count.
2. Waterproof toys = game changer
Bring a waterproof bullet or wand into the shower and thank us later. Use it on the clit, shaft, nipples, wherever, just don’t forget to charge it before getting wet. Try our Empress or Myth, they’re fully waterproof and fully iconic.
3. Use lube (yes, even in the shower)
Water-based lubes will wash off, so opt for a silicone-based lube if you want things to stay slick. Just go slow, silicone lube and tiles = very slippery. Safety first.
4. Choose your positions wisely
Standing up isn’t your only option. Try bending over with hands braced on the wall, lifting one leg up, or sitting on a shower bench if you’ve got one. Communicate what feels good and don’t be afraid to laugh through the awkward bits.
5. Take it slow + keep the heat
Don’t rush. Build the vibe with warm water, eye contact, and soft touches. Let the heat relax your muscles and set the scene for pleasure. If the water starts to cool down, it’s probably time to move it to the bedroom.
The final word on shower sex?
It can be steamy, it can be clumsy, it can be both. Shower sex isn’t for everyone, but it can be amazing with the right tools, mindset, and expectations. Keep things playful, focus on pleasure over perfection, and don’t forget to moisturise afterwards.
Your skin and your sex life, will thank you.